Welcome to Day 3 of the 30 Day 20/20 Life Vision Challenge!
What Are Your Strengths & Weaknesses?
The main goal today in the 20/20 Life Vision Challenge is to objectively determine your best “natural resources”(or strengths) as well as your “road blocks” (or weaknesses). We really want to hone in on what has been holding you back from your full potential. As we all know, our vices can completely disrupt and ruin otherwise happy and fruitful lives. Now isn’t the time to focus only on the positive and brush those character flaws under the rug. On the other hand, it is also quite rare to witness people living at their full potential; but when you do come across those who are at or close to that level, you can feel them beaming with energy, and see how happy they are. Do you know someone like that? If so, take note – in future lessons, we will focus on identifying and connecting with role models and mentors.
In the movie, Lucy, Morgan Freeman gives a great lecture about what might happen if human beings start using more than 10% of our brains; I definitely recommend watching it. Freeman notes “One hundred billion neurons per human of which only fifteen percent are activated. There are more connections in the human body than there are stars in the galaxy. We possess a gigantic network of information to which we have almost no access.”
Can you be objective about your own strengths and weaknesses? Objectivity is one of the cornerstones of wisdom and maturity; and it is one of the most difficult qualities to possess, because it requires us to see ourselves clearly, without bias and judgment – not an easy task. Do your best, be open and attempt to suspend self-judgment or aggrandizement in the process.
It is also important to observe how others think of you. What kind of impression do you make on people (not just the first impression, but over time); and who knows you well enough to understand why your life path has unfolded this way so far? It is a special opportunity to see yourself through the eyes of others – like a mirror, such as parents or close friends, especially during periods of personal growth and in cases where they have enough content to be clean mirrors for you.
DAY 3 ASSIGNMENT:
(1) Meditate on who you are today, and how you got to this point in your life – thinking of the good things that you possess and have experienced. List 3 – 5 Character Strengths of yours, and connect them to specific goals that you have achieved at any time in your life.
(2) Now, think about what has held you back from achieving certain goals of yours, and connect them to specific goals and responsibilities where you did not succeed.
(3) Call a close friend or family member – someone that you trust. Ask them to objectively give you their list of your strengths & weaknesses. Request of them to be compassionate but not to worry too much about hurting your feelings, and to be as honest as possible. Write down their answers.
Thank you for having the courage to be honest about yourself. Hopefully, you didn’t beat yourself up in the process, which is not useful. The concept of “brutal honesty” is just an excuse to be mean to people and put them down to make others feel better. So be gentle and honest – those are not mutually exclusive communication qualities.
See you tomorrow for Day 4.
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