DAY 12: SELF-ASSESSMENT - Major Life Events & Defining Moments

DAY 12: SELF-ASSESSMENT – Major Life Events & Defining Moments

Welcome to Day 12 of the 20/20 Life Vision Challenge! Major Life Events & Defining Moments

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Welcome to Day 12 of the 20/20 Life Vision Challenge!  If you have been following the entire program sequentially, I am sure you can tell by now how every day’s lesson builds on top of the previous ones.  That is why it is essential to complete each assignment – as you will be working with and refining your notes from prior days.  Being in the Self-Assessment Phase now, we will be delving deeper into some of the brainstorming notes that you took during the Meditation & Discovery Phase.  Let’s do a brief recap.

  • Back on Day 1, when we did the Rocking Chair meditation, you were asked to review your best life memories, regrets and defining moments from the standpoint of your future (90 year-old) self; that could have entailed current stories that you have already experienced, as well as future imagined possibilities from your upcoming years.
  • On Day 2, you estimated your current – versus ideal – weekly time allocation across the same 168 hours that every human being on Earth has to work with.
  • Day 3 dealt with your Strengths & Weaknesses, and tied them to specific goals attained or not.
  • Day 4 was about your supporting cast, the people that help you in various aspects of your life; which may also have brought up some gaps, where you can use more support going forward.
  • Day 5 introduced the 7 Goal Types, and for the first time, asked you to list out 10+ goals that you have had over the past 5 years, segmenting them by Type.
  • Day 6 challenged you to get outside of your own box and consider the Goals of Others, and how you can help them succeed.
  • Day 7 mapped out the most typical paths that goals take after we set them.
  • Day 8 raised vital questions about how you go about producing energy every day, suggesting meditation and exercise as imperative requirements for a healthy, happy and successful life.
  • Day 9 prompted you to think about your role models, those who you aspire to be like and can learn from.
  • Day 10, the last of Phase 1, dealt with our various personality traits (or I’s), and how they typically create internal conflict that prevents us from moving forward in an internally unified way, towards our goals and life purpose.

Day 11, the first of Phase 2, got you started on assessing the past 5 years of your life.  It is a big assignment, and will take different forms over the whole 10 days of Phase 2.  Today, we are simply adding a few new wrinkles, to stimulate further thinking.  Think about what the Major Life Events (MLEs) and defining moments have been for you over the past 5 years.  It is the same as the Day 1 exercise, except focused on a 5-year period, rather than 90 years of your life!  Here are some MLEs to consider – this is not a full list, and ultimately, what constitutes an MLE for you is somewhat subjective:

  1. You got married…
  2. Got divorced…
  3. Had a child…
  4. Graduated from school…
  5. Dropped out of school…
  6. Got a new job…
  7. Got fired from your job…
  8. Moved to a new country or city…
  9. Had a major injury or surgery…
  10. Had a loss of life among your family and friends…
  11. Sold a company…
  12. Started a company…

MLEs specify what happened, whereas Defining Moments determine how you process what happens – what is your internal and external response?  How did these MLEs, or even non-major events move you to reconsider your approach to an area of life?  Nothing actually has to happen externally, to prompt an inner change of perspective.  When MLEs occur, it also typically shifts your Energy & Time allocation (ET Type – from Day 5, remember?) dramatically (ie. for example, I had my first child – a son – in 2015, and had to make some major scheduling and planning shifts to make time for him!)

DAY 12 ASSIGNMENT:

  1. Specify what MLEs took place over the past 5 years, and working with your Day 2 Worksheet, specify how your time was generally shifted as a result.
  2. Building on or refining Question 1 from Day 11, how did those MLEs factor in – positively and negatively – to your goals over the past 5 years?  Think about your emotional and mental response to these MLEs.  Did they increase or decrease your Internal Energy Production, focus and/or motivation?

As always, work either in your own notebook, Evernote or ideally, in the 20/20 Life Vision Challenge Workbook.  Good luck to you – this is an important assignment.  See you on Day 13!

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